Now I'll admit in my eyes they are the same level of awful, actually death referenced in material can send me convulsing, shivering, and have me crying. But I'm an anomoly, people don't quite view death in that way on average so for general audiences my perception really shouldn't be considered. **** though, that's something people have lived through, it is something people will often consider worse and fear far more. It effects most people a lot more than death does and in different ways.
In general I hate how **** is treated in media.
Male on Female, plot device.
Female on Male, comedy.
Male on Male, generally for comedy.
Female on Female, much more rare and sometimes even played for sex appeal.
Now, in writing everything is a plot device. I can sort of understand that half of his argument, but to that the main issue would be being a "One Trick Pony." If everyone uses **** in the exact same way without changing the formula or intent in the work you're just being a hack and doing nothing original, just the same old crap. This is me looking at it more from the perspective of a writer than anything else. Everything is a tool, but tools can be used in various ways and you don't have to use them for every project. When you use one tool over and over and for almost the same exact purpose, you aren't properly using said tool.
Also your second link didn't work.
EDIT: It is also pretty saddening to see a much more successful writer than I am using a tool which I have also used in such a limited way. It's incredibly insensitive and honestly just pandering.