Wholesome Advice

EeAyEss wrote:
Why do I feel that that is a little stab at this thread? :suspect:

Trust me, it's not a stab at this thread, I just have far too many retarded friends whose train of thoughts are exactly that

EeAyEss wrote:

densetsushun wrote:"Critical thinking does not mean believing everything you read off the internet and abstaining from proper media sources"

-Learn to take a joke. You should not be in a serious mood every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year of every decade of every century of your life.

Amen too many people are too wound up these days, that being said what you find funny doesn't necessarily means the other person will find it funny. Took too many bruised shoulders to figure that one out.

bunnywink wrote:Here's some advice that a read a couple days ago and something that I feel is important:

Acknowledge that you don't get to define other people's comfort level with you.

Which is to say that you may be trying your hardest to be interesting and engaging and fun to be around — and still come off as a creeper to someone else. Yes, that sucks for you. But you know what? It sucks for them even harder, because you're creeping them out and making them profoundly unhappy and uncomfortable. It may not seem fair that "creep" is their assessment of you, but: Surprise! It doesn't matter, and if you try to argue with them (or anyone else) that you're in fact not being a creep and the problem is with them not you, then you go from "creep" to "complete assbag." Sometimes people aren't going to like you or want to be near you. It's just the way it is.

That's some very good advice, but I think it ties into a much larger problem in general, a lot of people have self esteem issues and should learn to not define themselves by what others think of them(barring healthy self reflection, of course, improvement is good).

AnCapaillMor wrote:

Amen too many people are too wound up these days, that being said what you find funny doesn't necessarily means the other person will find it funny. Took too many bruised shoulders to figure that one out.

That too.

-Reserve your humor for when you know if the person you are sharing it with is comfortable with the humor.

Please note that a lot of my "advice"(as it were) comes from being observant and using common sense/critical thinking. That being said:

-Learn to observe. A calm, watchful eye can be as useful if not more useful than a listening ear. Used in tandem, information should be easy to obtain.

-Learn to use and apply practical common sense and critical thinking. These skills will benefit you in every aspect of life.

bunnywink wrote:Here's some advice that a read a couple days ago and something that I feel is important:

Acknowledge that you don't get to define other people's comfort level with you.

Which is to say that you may be trying your hardest to be interesting and engaging and fun to be around — and still come off as a creeper to someone else. Yes, that sucks for you. But you know what? It sucks for them even harder, because you're creeping them out and making them profoundly unhappy and uncomfortable. It may not seem fair that "creep" is their assessment of you, but: Surprise! It doesn't matter, and if you try to argue with them (or anyone else) that you're in fact not being a creep and the problem is with them not you, then you go from "creep" to "complete assbag." Sometimes people aren't going to like you or want to be near you. It's just the way it is.

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Edit: sorry for the off topic off topic. I'll try to bring something later

EeAyEss wrote:

AnCapaillMor wrote:

Amen too many people are too wound up these days, that being said what you find funny doesn't necessarily means the other person will find it funny. Took too many bruised shoulders to figure that one out.

That too.

-Reserve your humor for when you know if the person you are sharing it with is comfortable with the humor.

IE don't put your foot in your mouth, consider the situation then talk, I'm notorious in work for it. I'm that guy that walked into a pub asked why the long faces did someone just die, yes x's grandfather just passed away.

Ouch.

I was lucky in that it defused and lightened the situation because only I'd do that, had a good laugh over it and I ended up buying the next few rounds.

Never attribute to malace what can be adequately explained by stupidity.
-Hanlon's Razor

That's a good one^


- Even though we all get terrible boogers on airplanes, don't think you can get away with picking em without somebody noticing. That's what the bathroom is for.

Never let your moms cut your hair

Gambs_the_Grey wrote:Never let your moms cut your hair

Sage wisdom.

"If you want something done right, do it yourself. "

Seriously, don't get someone else to do your dirty work only to be dissatisfied with the outcome.

Gambs_the_Grey wrote:Never let your moms cut your hair

Except when you've attempted a mohawk on yourself and it isn't exactly a straight line.

Never eat yellow snow

BIG TIME MASTER wrote:- Never under appreciate the value of somebody preparing food for you. There is no greater act of love.

This sent me on a guilt spiral this morning..

Don't be oversensative. (Read: no point in being offended by most things, especially those things that don't affect you)

In relationships, determine the meaning of an action before responding to it. If in doubt, ask. (Read: don't assume intent)

It is better to look uninformed than incompetent.

Secrets arn't secret if shared.

- knifes hurt

- not everyone likes your music

- lots of alcohol = bad over long time

- no matter how much of a good idea it might seem at first, hugging a cactus is not worth it

- slippers make life so much easier

- invest in an umbrella

Peaceful Wollyhop wrote:-

- invest in an umbrella

Indeed, but not a 5 euro flimsy piece of crap sold by an African dude on a street corner in Venice. It's gonna crumble and invert if the wind blows at all.

-from washington where it rains 200 days a year

umbrellas are for wimps, and they take a hand which could be warm in ones pocket or doing something else, like operating a phone or holding coffee.

Invest in a gortex coat or a rubber rain slicker, just as dry with both hands free and the option to tie it around ones waist instead of having to carry it if it proves unnecessary.

Agreed^

A rain coat or parka is way more practical. Pricey though. Unless you are living in a place it rains a lot, it might not be worth the cost.

If it doesn't rain a lot, then you won't need it often so it should last a long time. Wearing mine nearly every day all autum/winter/spring its still made it 4 years. Spray on water proofing will extend its life as well.

It seems like a big investment, but it works out differently when considering the how long it will last if its taken care of. Still more expensive than an umbrella, no doubt, but my jacket ended up costing 12 cents a day for each day I used it.

Always be wary of the company you have before you. It's a lesson I learned long ago but still from time to time I slip up. I can never drill this enough into the mind of people.

"Don't you think feminism is great?"-Female Friend

"Not really, I don't see why it even exists anymore."-Technically right way to respond, wrong thing to say.

"Oh yeah, I love equality!"-Technically wrong way to respond, right thing to say.

Indian food. Don't ask what it is, just eat it.